Sex, Dating, and Relationships: A Book Review — Courtney Reissig
That's why I was really excited when I learned about this new book by Gerald Hiestand and Jay Thomas, Sex, Dating, and Relationships: A. Sex, Dating, and Relationships: A Fresh Approach [Gerald Hiestand, Jay S. Review. “This is a straightforward, yet provocative little book. You'll find a lot of. The World's #1 Authority on Dating, Sex and Relationships. 15+ Years Searching for the Best Experts, Advice and Mentors.
I decided to check it out and I am glad I did so.
Sex, Dating, And Relationships: A Fresh Approach by Gerald Hiestand
You are not boyfriend and girlfriend, but friends, and you spend time together i. Thus, the main goal of a dating friendship is to explore the viability of marriage while preserving the guidelines of sexual and romantic purity required by the neighbor relationship.
Integral to the argument is an understanding of how the Bible guides and restricts sexual activity. God gives us clear sexual boundaries to guide marriage relationships sex is requiredneighbor relationships sex is forbidden and family relationships sex is forbidden. The authors want dating couples to understand that until they are married, their relationship to the person they are pursuing is a neighbor relationship in which any sexual activity or even the awakening of sexual desire is inappropriate.
What is conspicuously absent from the Bible is a category that falls between neighbor and spouse. Yet this is where so much of our relationship confusion comes from—an invented category that is more than one but less than the other and lacking any clear biblical guidelines.
But this is not true. Not only is sex a divinely appointed image of the gospel, but also man himself is an image of God. We are walking sermon illustrations, if you will.
Sex, Dating, And Relationships: A Fresh Approach
Everything God does relates to his image. He wants to be shown forth rightly in this world. And our responsibility as image bearers is to obey his commands. And he owns the image, meaning he gets to tell us how he wants us to image him.
This foundation profoundly shapes the way we talk about sex and purity with today's young people.
From there they talk about why the "how far? Perhaps the most helpful thing they do is define biblically what those relationships are to be.
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Only one of those relationships is permitted and even commanded to engage in sexual activity--the marriage relationship. The question "how far is too far?
They provide some really helpful comments on the actual lack of commitment that comes with dating relationships, calling it a "mirage".
While marriage is a covenant that should guarantee commitment, dating is not, and the other party is allowed to leave at any time with no real consequences, essentially exposing the real dangers inherent in a dating relationship. I found these distinctions extremely helpful in thinking through how I teach these things to my students. They propose a new category of relationships for singles called "dating friendships".
These relationships are designed to be intentional in the same way others have talked about biblical dating, but the only difference is that the relationships also includes a level of romantic purity designed to protect both parties from becoming too emotionally attached too soon. They take their cues from the relationship between Christ and the Church.
He only has one Bride, one relationship, and one love, and that is his Church. Focusing on getting to know one another serves one purpose: If so, the man proposes and the couple gets married.
Our modern dating culture assumes that romance and dating and sometimes sexual activity is necessary for finding a spouse.