A Single's Guide to Surviving The Holidays
A new series that explores what it's really like to be single in your 30s and NGAF. “Thanks Sis, for asking how dating is going. In the last Dating someone new during the holidays can be tricky. Family gatherings, presents and office parties can seem like a minefield, but I'm here to. My year-old grandmother hasn't dated for 20 years, and is the first to say she has “never, ever” missed the married life that followed her well.
You hear it from friends, you see it at parties, and unsuspecting grandmothers attack you at Thanksgiving dinner.
They are suddenly aware they are single and need to get out and meet someone. So, they will be more emotionally available and open to connect with you. You can buy yourself gifts.
You can take advantage of the pre-Christmas and after Christmas sales. You can enjoy this time embracing your singlehood and spoiling yourself as Santa would.
Thanksgiving dinner, Christmas dinner, and some other holiday dinners are definitely tough when it comes to your family. It gives me the opportunity to meet someone I care about. People are emotionally open and available. You get to go to all the parties and be the single person. You can carry mistletoe around with you.
A Single’s Guide to Surviving the Holidays
You can set up fun, little holiday dates. Eggnog, walks in the park, ice-skating. Like, is this not a discussion you really wanted to get into at the table with the whole family watching - that kind of thing. Yeah, that's pretty good.
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All right, let's turn up the burn a little bit. You know, Uncle Greg, when you - this is really horrible. Did somebody actually say this to you when you refer to my eggs as a product with an expiration date?
Has somebody said to you, or Not directly to me. But it is an anecdote with some truth in it.
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Well, so when you refer to my eggs as a product with an expiration date, that's an incredibly offensive way of letting me and all the women seated at this table know that you think women have nothing more to offer the world than childbearing.
So how do we amp up the burn on this one? The way that I would approach that is just really being direct and saying, you know, tomorrow morning, I'm going to be cooking breakfast for the entire family, and I do hope that there's nothing wrong with your eggs That sort of moment.
A little bit of honesty, a little bit of feeding them with their own ingredients - that sort of message. And this one, I think, is probably a classic. Probably a lot of people have said this. And, again, if I have said this to anybody, I apologize - asking how dating is going. A lot of suggestions for really bringing the honesty to this.
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So how is dating going? What do you say? So the realities of how dating is going is that what's actually happening most of the time is you're enduring a lot of ghosting. And if you've been married for the last 10 to 15 years, you won't know what ghosting is, mercifully. But ghosting is when you have met someone, you've gone on a date with someone, or you've gone on a good, you know, 20 dates with someone. And then, out of nowhere, they sort of vanish into thin air as if you've made them up in your mind.
And that can sort of drive you a little bit insane. And that question and telling the truth about that question is feeding that back to the person that's inquiring about it and making it a little bit more real for them and a little bit more honest for them.
So what's happening is I'm going out on dates, and then I'm never hearing from people again. And you finish with, but I'm so glad you asked about this publicly because another blow to my self-esteem was just what the doctor ordered. Did I answer your question? Yes - at the table. Here's one of my favorites from back when I was single. I was going on a business trip and having somebody - a man - who'd sit next to me and say, oh, you know, are you married, or are you a single gal?
We were just venting the other day about how hard it can be — or should I say, nearly impossible- to really invest and interact with family and friends in this stage of life.
Take advantage of standing alone by being deliberate about starting conversations, meeting new people, and spending quality time with the people you love. Seek to enjoy the blessings to their full potential while you can. Tap into the community of loved ones: Along those same lines, take initiative to get together with friends and put out the invitations rather than waiting to be invited. There are so many fun ways to connect with people by hosting a party or a get-together of your own.
Rather than sit feeling isolated and alone, be proactive and make something happen.